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Thursday, June 22, 2017

Growth Opportunities

As I was drifting off to sleep and I was halfway between wakefulness and dream state, my mind filled with thoughts for my next post. I tried to will myself to get up to jot everything but while my mind wanted to get up, my body seemed weighed down so I succumbed to the call of sleep but only after promising myself that I will remember everything the following day. Well, I don't. I have a fairly good recollection of the topic but the exact words escaped me. I recall saying to myself, "That's a good one. You definitely need to remember that." Yeah, right!

Before I fell asleep, I remember thinking about the roles and purpose the people that are close to us play in our lives. People come and go yet I truly believe that even those who stay in our lives for only a short while were sent to us for a reason. People either become a permanent or temporary addition to our lives. Their purpose could be to love, counsel, instruct, grow, enrich, heal, or simply teach us a lesson and vice versa. They could be our parents, children, siblings, friends, spouse, significant other, teacher, student, co-worker, boss, etc. Whatever role they play, it's guaranteed to create an impact in our lives whether it's for good or bad and there is certainly always a lesson to be learned.  I like to look at the bright side so I choose to believe that I'm a better, wiser individual as a result of their presence in my life. Other times, even strangers we encounter for a few minutes could impart lessons significant enough to bring about change in us. We just need to open our hearts to these growth opportunities.

Someone in particular came to mind and I was thanking the Lord for having brought this person in my life. This person has taught me to become more conscious of the will to be patient (for someone who thrives on spontaneity and always fights the urge to act on impulse, being patient is a constant struggle for me). This person reminded me to accept the things I cannot change. This person spoke with poignant truthfulness that took me by surprise because this person said things I didn't want to hear but needed to, to ground me and bring me back to the realization that the world does not revolve around me. Through this person, God taught me that there is kindness and love in silence, especially when the silence is meant to diffuse a tensed moment or to preserve peace. At first I took this silence as lack of care, betrayal and disrespect and it made me feel not valued, which further intensified the pain I felt. With time, I came to appreciate the value of silence as it allows us to pause and reflect and it serves as a good reminder that everyone communicates differently. I am learning the path to proper discernment and I'm slowly learning to detach myself from unnecessary baggage, material and immaterial. I have learned to practice loving kindness for myself in order to generate the same loving kindness for others. I have come to accept my flaws and just be myself. Because of this person, I am beginning to understand what it means to fully surrender my will to God and to be in total obedience-to relinquish all control and let God pave the way. For all these, I am thankful.

We encounter people everyday. Some choose to stay, some move on, other times it's us that make the choice. Time and circumstances change us and these encounters play a big part in who we become. It is my hope that we all make an effort to see the positive outcomes from these encounters and choose to remain at peace even when a painful and difficult decision to move on needs to be made.

The people in our lives are there by design--they're all part of a master plan. -- elle

--with faith and gratitude,
Elle

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